Raising a child with ADHD comes with it’s own set of unique challenges and rewards. As a parent of a child with ADHD you want to understand why your child struggles with social and behavioral rules that seem to come so easily to other children, and how to manage their behavior and help them succeed.
Today, Dr. Phelan will be talking about:
- What ADHD looks like in kids
- The behaviors and misbehaviors you are most likely to see at home (and how to handle them)
- What you can do at home to get better behavior from an ADHD child
ADHD is Not Caused By Parenting
ADHD is a genetic condition, it's not caused by your parenting. However, your parenting can have a big impact on making your child's ADHD more manageable (or much harder). A calm, consistent parenting system like 1-2-3 Magic will help both you and your child cope with challenges so much better because you will both know what to expect.
The 30% Rule
The expectations you have for your child's behavior are important. The more realistic you are in what you can expect from your child, the more easily you will be able to create a plan to get good behavior from them. The 30% Rule says that for kids with ADHD, you should take 30% off their age to get an accurate idea of where they are in their social and behavioral development. For instance, if your child is 10 and has ADHD, 30% of their age is 3 years, so you should expect that they have the social and behavioral development of a typically developing 7-year-old. All of this is to say that kids with ADHD are going to need more help and guidance with social and behavioral things than many children their age.
1-2-3 Magic was developed with a large cohort of ADHD children. Dr. Phelan has both personal and professional experience with ADHD kids and has been inducted into the CHADD Hall of Fame.