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5 Back-to-School Preparedness Tips

August 24, 2017 6122 Views No comments

It's that time of year again! If your kids haven't already gone back to school, then they won't be far behind. But making the transition from summer to fall isn't always easy. There are a lot of changes that must be managed. Here are five back-to-school tips to help you and your kids make the shift as easy as possible.

5 Tips for Surviving Summertime

July 21, 2017 5447 Views No comments

Summertime…and the livin’ is easy! Well, not exactly. You lost your best babysitter—school. The kids are all home and the first day of classes seems light-years away. You are faced daily with sibling rivalry, boredom, traveling in the car, tantrums, and bedtime problems. Let’s deal with each of these in turn.

Silence Speaks Louder Than Words: Discipline with an Audience

June 28, 2017 11839 Views No comments

Picture this: you've had a hectic day—all that's left is one quick stop at the grocery store. You know this is not the best time to take your five-year-old, but you have no choice. You'll just avoid the candy aisle.

As you reach the checkout line, your child spots one of those big displays at the end of the aisle. You child politely asks, "Mom, can I get one of those?" You answer, "No, not today."

Your youngster loses it. Stomping his feet and waving his arms, he shouts at you at the top of his lungs. It feels as though an unsympathetic crowd is gathering to see how you're going to quiet the little monster.

What do you do now? Beg? Argue? Hide? Leave? Throw a tantrum of your own?

Attitude Adjustment Time! Big Dog vs. Underdog Parenting Styles

March 22, 2017 9624 Views No comments

Anyone who is a parent knows that the job is tough. Really tough. If we moms and dads were really honest with ourselves, we'd have to admit that we had almost no idea what we were getting into when we brought that first baby home.

The old saying about kids not coming with a training manual is true. And the problem of "What do I do with this kid?" is intensified for parents in our contemporary rush-rush, worry-worry world. The problem is that when parents don't quite know what they're doing and they're too busy to find out, they tend to shoot from the hip. Shooting from the hip can lead to two opposite, out-of-control parenting styles, neither of which is good for children. Let's call these two styles "Underdog" parenting and "Big Dog" parenting.

The Six Kinds of Testing and Manipulation in Children

February 16, 2017 89731 Views No comments

Who's in Charge at Your House?

True or False? Kids' self-esteem and creativity are both higher when they can "do their own thing" and they are not exposed to external limits imposed by adult authority.

Believe it or not, this statement is false. A number of studies have come up with the conclusion—which makes sense when you think about it—that kids feel better about themselves and perform better, creatively and otherwise, when they learn the boundaries for reasonable behavior.

The world itself has all kinds of limits and rules. There are rules for how to treat other people, speed limits, laws about property rights, rules for sports, interest payments, taxes, marriage. You may not like all these regulations, but if you don't recognize them, you will get hurt and wind up more frustrated than you would be if you followed them. Parents are the ones who introduce their children to life's boundaries.

How parents establish rules and set limits—or fail to set limits—not only has a tremendous effect on the self-esteem of a child, but it also affects the relationship between parent and child, the parent's own self-esteem and the overall atmosphere for everyone around the home. These effects are enduring. They involve not just a particular hour of a given day, but they involve weeks and months and years.

The parents' job here is complicated. It first involves coming up with reasonable rules. These must then be communicated clearly to the children. Then they must be enforced on a regular basis. And finally, when they are being enforced, children rarely say, "Thank you for your efforts." Instead they test and manipulate.


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