Bedtime can be an amazing time for bonding and connection with your kids. We also know it can also be frustrating when both you and your kids are tired and bedtime becomes a battle. Don’t worry, there’s a solution!
In this video Dr. Phelan answers:
- why kids don’t want to go to bed
- the most powerful tool to create a clam and happy bedtime, and
- what to do if your child won’t stay in bed
There are two reasons kids don't want to go to bed. What are they?
1. Because it's boring
2. Kids get nighttime fears
Being awake is exciting! Kids want to know what mom and dad are watching on tv and don't want to be left out. Secondly, nighttime can be scary. Kids may be afraid of the dark, the monster under the bed, or nightmares and want mom or dad nearby to keep them safe.
What is a basic bedtime routine?
Parents should address those two main issues when establishing a bedtime routine. You pick a bedtime and stick with it and then 20-30 minutes before that bedtime you start this routine. At the end of the 30 minutes, sit on the bed and talk to them, ask them about their day or tell them a story. It is calming and a pleasant time between you and your child. It is important to do this routine for every single bedtime.
Hopefully this program is helpful! If you need more help with challenges like discouraging bad behaviour, 1-2-3 Magic is a great resource. We also have an on-demand seminar on Managing Difficult Behavior that you can watch and start using right away.