We all suffer from a biological curse that motivates us to say something to our kids when we're angry at them but to keep quiet when the little ones are doing what we want them to do. Imagine it's Sunday in October and I'm watching a football game. My two children are in the next room playing a game with each other, having a great time and getting along very well. What do you think the chances are that I'm going to get up out of my chair, walk all the way into the next room, and say, "Gee, I'm delighted you guys are having such a good time!"? That would be a great thing, but the chances of my doing it are about zero. Why? Because when adults are happy and content themselves, they are not particularly motivated to do anything more than what they're already doing.